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We all want a great bond with our dogs. But why is it important, and how do you go about creating a lasting bond with your dog?
I can answer this question two ways; on a deeper level I can talk about bonding in terms of survival. Dogs are not born with the skills to care for or protect themselves, and neither are any mammals, including humans. As mammals, we have a lot to learn before we are considered fully capable adults. This means that as we grow up we are decreasingly dependent on others for our survival. The bond we form with those that care for us is the only reason they let us stick around for so long. As juveniles, we add burden to resources, time, patience, and sometimes the security of the family or social group.
Consider human teenagers for a moment. If it weren’t for the bond we form with our family, the streets would be filled with hungry teens, complaining about how unfair their lives were! That bond is the only thing keeping those grumpy adolescents in their family homes, where they can safely finish their “training” and become fully functioning adults – hopefully!
In terms of our human/dog bond, the survival of their species is not at stake. But we still need that bond to unite us together as a family. We keep our dogs in a state of eternal puppy hood. This makes them dependent on us to meet all their needs, so it makes sense that they will try to bond with us; their caregivers. At this level, the greater the bond we have, the more resilient our dogs will be, which makes them more resistant to trauma, separation anxiety and reactive behaviour!
Private Dog Behaviour Consultations are currently available online and in-person in Dundee and the surrounding area. If you are looking for help solving your dogs behaviour and training problems, please get in touch!
Have you ever wondered what it is that makes a dog run into a burning building? Remain at his sick fur-dads side? Or track his missing owner across miles of countryside? It’s the attachment he formed with his family. Of course, those are extreme examples of what a solid bond can do. But it is that same bond that, on a more mundane level, can also improve your dogs recall, improve his desire to please you, and inspire him to learn new things from you.
This is not a one-way process. There are benefits to your dog too. Obviously, he will be fed and cared for. But, when the dog creates a bond with his owner, he also feels safe and secure. This allows him to place his trust in you, which will make him feel more confident in situations that would normally scare him. He knows you wouldn’t put him in harm’s way, and that helps him hugely as he experiences the world.
In May 2016, a terrier, stolen from his home, walked for three weeks, travelling 170 miles, just to find his way home to his family.
So now you know how important it is to form a meaningful bond with your dog, the question is how? If you are taking good care of your dog, you will already have some kind of bond with him. You can’t have too good a bond though. So, here is a selection of some of my favourite ways to improve your relationship. But essentially, as long as you are spending quality time together, and are both finding it rewarding then you are probably on the right track, so feel free to use your imagination.
Why not join a training club or take a heel-work to music class. Not only will you learn how to teach your dog new tricks. But, he will also benefit from learning from you and you will both benefit from better obedience. You won’t be surprised to learn that dogs that walk calmly beside their owners feel closer to their owner and they get longer walks; its win-win.
Whatever you try, you’ll learn together, and you’ll mess up together, but most importantly you’ll have fun together. Just make sure you are using positive, reward based training methods, and don’t worry too much about achieving perfection!
Your local vet or pet shop should be able to recommend classes in your area.
If your dog is particularly energetic, you might consider taking up a more physical hobby. Flyball, Hoopers, and Agility are excellent choices and are particularly well suited to the dog that also likes to play with a ball. These sports have increased in popularity over the years and clubs are opening up all over the place. The focus is always on having fun, so all breeds and abilities are usually welcome. The only stipulation being that, for medical reasons, your dog must be over the age of two and in good health.
If these sports don’t suit, what about Mantrailling? I could go on and on about the benefits of scent training. But, teaching a dog to find things with his nose is a brilliant way to reduce stress, improve confidence, and have fun together. Check with your local vet or pet shop for suggestions of nearby clubs.
Yep, you can’t go far without bumping into a Pet friendly cafe or Restaurant these days. With the weather looking up, you could even go out for a picnic together or get a takeaway afternoon tea box and enjoy that with your dog on the park.
If you have energy to burn, you might fancy taking up a sport that your dog can join in on. Running, cycling, and hill walking are good for you both, and we all know dogs love to exercise. In fact, for most dogs it’s their favourite thing. While you are at it, why not consider taking up a challenge together, maybe a 5K cross country run or join a weekly park run?
Dog friendly races are being organised all over the country, just make sure to get advice from your doctor and/or vet if you aren’t used to doing these types of exercises. Facing the world together, as a team, is an amazing feeling for you both.
They say families that play together, stay together, and I think they are right. Playing games together, and not just when your dog asks for it, is a great way to use up excess energy and improve your relationship. Fetch, find the treat, tug, or hide-and-seek, or perhaps your dog would love something else? Anything goes if it means you are spending time together in a fun and rewarding way. Dogs love rules too, so why not add a few to make it harder and more interesting. My favourites are to ask the dog to sit before you throw the ball, or to release a tug on command before you start playing again. Just make sure you play in a safe way.
If you are not the energetic type, you could just chill with your pooch in front of the telly. Cuddle and nap time is good for both of you. You’ll feel closer to each other plus you’ll feel calmer and less stressed too. While you’re enjoying some calm time together, don’t forget to make soft, indirect eye contact as you gently pet him. Talking softly about your day while you massage and groom him is great therapy too—it’ll work wonders for you both.
According to WebMD, people that pet their dogs are more likely to be happier, are more sociable, and are less likely to suffer from stress!
We’ve talked a lot about creating a solid relationship with your dog, but we should now talk a bit about breaking those special bonds. Dogs can be very forgiving when we mess up, but eventually they will lose faith in us if we fail to earn and keep their trust and respect. Essentially, building bonds is about spending time together in a rewarding, fun, and positive way, so it stands to reason that if we behave in the opposite way, any bond we had or hoped to have is going to be broken down. This should be considered anytime we are tempted to “punish” the dog’s bad behaviour, leave the dog alone all day, or skip walkies. Ignoring a dog that is asking for space, or pushing them too far out of their comfort zone can also dent a trust bond.
It’s hard to deny the benefits that can be gained by working on the relationship you have with your dog. You’ll both be happier. He’ll feel safer and be more loyal. He’ll be more obedient, and much easier to train. All you have to do is choose an activity (or three), that suit you both and start having fun together!
Private Dog Behaviour Consultations are currently available online and in-person in Dundee and the surrounding area. If you are looking for help solving your dogs behaviour and training problems, please get in touch!
Private Dog Behaviour Consultations are currently available online and in-person in Dundee and the surrounding area. If you are looking for help solving your dogs behaviour and training problems, please get in touch!
Creating a lasting bond with your dog is essential for their well-being and your relationship. Spend quality time together through training, playing, and exploring new activities. Engage in positive, reward-based training methods and consider hobbies like agility or scent training. Simple activities like cuddling, walking, and even visiting pet-friendly cafes can strengthen your connection. A strong bond enhances trust, reduces anxiety, and makes your dog more resilient and happy, enriching both your lives.